I did it. It’s done. It is over. After a week of tears, sobs and general depression I feel like I am getting myself back. I feel strong again. I am dancing around the house again. It feels good.
The biggest problem I had during the week was everyone else. The support overall was amazing. But everyone had an opinion about how I should be dealing with him. Did they all just hate him that much that they all suggested absolutely no contact or did they just think I was so weak and so much under his spell that I wouldn’t have been able to do it any other way? Funnily enough the two people’s advice I respected the most was two people that I had to ask to get their thought on their opinion.
At the end of the day though, I didn’t do what everyone said to do. I did what felt right for me. What felt right for ‘us’. No one knows what is going on in someone else’s relationship or break up, so sure give your opinion, but give it with the respect that I will do whatever the fuck I want to do and you should, if you are my friend, support me either way.
Case in point – My best friends husband had an affair for about a month. She found out in dramatic style and now more than deal with the shitty thing her husband did, she has to deal with everyone’s opinion and cries of “Leave him!!” They say it more behind her back than to her face, but at the end of the day – does her choices actually effect your day to day? NO. Should you except her life choices and support her regardless? YES. Like they say. Opinions are like assholes… Everyone has one.
As the Ex and I had a very different relationship, we have decided to be friends and still see each other while going thru the break up. We know where each other stand and both recognize that we are so much better as friends than we are anything else. And I know both of us can’t bear to not be in each others lives. I feel so good and fresh about it, it’s like I am seeing things in a brand new light. I am looking forward to the future, one day meeting the next man, and until that happens doing all the things I want to do when I want to do it without having to think about anyone else.
He was meant to come into my life for a reason. I am not going cast him aside just because we didn’t work out as a couple.
The future is bright. And I am going to do what’s right for me.